Feel Your Feelings

Everyday, Mental Health, Musings / Friday, June 2nd, 2023

“How are you feeling today?”

This is probably the most difficult question you can ask me.

When I first started therapy about 1.5 years ago, my therapist would ask me this question first, and I would freeze. I didn’t know the ‘correct’ answer. Do you actually respond with what you feel?

Because we have been trained in social settings to say, “Fine, I am doing good!” even if you have been hit by a tornado, slapped by a sloth, and buried under a bear.

And I have never been comfortable talking about ‘feelings,’ thinking that to do so would make me weak.

So, my therapist tried to ask me differently:

“How are we feeling today?” hoping that the ‘we’ would take some of the pressure off.

Maybe, that worked. Because I did start answering that question. Hesitantly. Shyly.

And it’s gotten easier since then to answer that question.

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ป’๐˜ ๐—ธ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ. We don’t know how to express them. And we don’t know how to handle the consequences of that expression.

In this lovely story, meant for children but applicable for adults, our feelings, all those big, huge, scary, small feelings, are laid bare.

And telling us gently that they all matter.

Meanwhile, how are ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ feeling today? (Me? I am feeling a bit lost…)

๐˜๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜บ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต: ๐˜”๐˜บ ๐˜‰๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ด

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